Have you ever noticed there is a difference in how marriage is viewed? To some marriage is viewed as a contract. Others view it as a covenant. A contract is a binding relationship between two or more parties for the express purpose of meeting a mutual objective for a specific period of time (i.e. purchasing a car). If indeed the contract is broken, there may be legal consequences for not abiding to what you agreed to in the first place. To illustrate, let's think about purchasing the car. If a person fails to pay for the vehicle, the car will be repossessed and that person will have a mark against him on his credit history.Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Contract vs. Covenant
Have you ever noticed there is a difference in how marriage is viewed? To some marriage is viewed as a contract. Others view it as a covenant. A contract is a binding relationship between two or more parties for the express purpose of meeting a mutual objective for a specific period of time (i.e. purchasing a car). If indeed the contract is broken, there may be legal consequences for not abiding to what you agreed to in the first place. To illustrate, let's think about purchasing the car. If a person fails to pay for the vehicle, the car will be repossessed and that person will have a mark against him on his credit history.Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Two Types of Love

Today as never before it seems we are acutely aware of disposable things. That tendency seems to have effected many married couples as they fail to grasp the difference between phileo love and agape love. Phileo love is love that is contingent upon emotions. The “warm fuzzies”, for lack of better term keynotes this designation of love. Phileo love is the type that says “I will be kind to you, if you are kind to me”. However, since it is a self-oriented, feeling based love, if one receives negative feedback, then negative feedback is returned. Agape love, on the other hand, is quite different. Some have described it as colorless, irritating, and is quite frankly annoying. Why? Because agape love cares for the other person, even if when is not returned. Agape love lays the gauntlet down of doing an act of love, even when he/she may not appreciate it. That is tough stuff. I t seems to be what is spoken of in the Bible in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. A healthy marriage has a foundation of agape love which allows for a generous supply of phileo.
What do you think?